Getting Your Loved One to Accept Caregiving Services

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You Realize Your Loved One Needs Caregiving

Caregiving can be a touchy subject to bring up with an elderly loved one. Let us guide you so that you not only approach the subject properly but you understand what’s best for your loved one when it comes to keeping them at home safely.

Today’s world often finds families scattered across the country. It is rare to find an entire family located in close proximity to each other and even more rare to find that everyone can pitch in when it comes time to primary caregiving for a loved one.

Most of us want to keep our loved one in their home for as long as possible. We realize that home is where they are most comfortable; however, you may have recently realized that they can no longer take care of themselves. It’s not unusual for family members to come “home” for the holidays or vacation and discover that your loved one’s living conditions are not what they should be.

How Do You Approach The Subject of Caregiving?

CBS News released statistics showing that “caregiving” issues cause excessive stress between family members 43% of the time. This means that nearly half of those who are faced with having to find a caregiver for a loved one will experience disputes within the family regarding the subject.

You can try to avoid confrontations with these tips on how to approach the subject with both your loved ones and other family members:

  • Choose a calm time to approach your loved one – you will have to determine when your loved one is at their best (often late mornings after a good night’s rest and healthy breakfast). This will most likely put them at ease overall and less combative.
  • Approach your family in a group without your loved one present at first – it is best to do this at a time when stress levels are lowest and not wait until everyone is rushing to catch flights or preparing to leave. Make it understood that this is a group discussion and remind everyone of what you’ve noticed during your recent visit home.
  • Present the idea as an option for your loved one to maintain their independence – reminding them that this can help them stay in their own home. Instead of presenting it as a threat of “you can do this or go to a nursing home” approach it from a viewpoint that allows them to keep their dignity. “Wouldn’t it be nice to finally have someone come cook and clean for you now so you can focus on things you love to do like reading or knitting, etc.?”
  • Be empathetic – putting yourself in their shoes will give you a better perspective of why they may fight any help at all. Instead, of viewing it as their daughter or sister, etc., see the situation from their eyes and try to understand how it feels to have to face the reality that you can no longer truly care for yourself. (You don’t want to make this about what they can’t do now; but instead focus on what they CAN do if they were to have professional caregiving services to help them)
  • Give them something to look forward to – for instance learning how to use the computer to Skype or email or even play games now that they’ll have more time to focus on them. Point out the positive aspects of professional caregiving services.

Hiring a Non-Professional Caregiver

Many times people will have offers from friends or “a friend of a friend” to provide in home caregiving for their loved one. You may be tempted because of the immediate ease and gratitude of: there’s no paperwork, it’s probably going to be less expensive than a professional caregiver, and you figure your loved one will feel much safer with someone they know or comes recommended by someone you know. Don’t be fooled!

Not hiring a professional caregiver can be dangerous and costly! There are a number of reasons why a professional home healthcare service such as Caring Connection in Maryland, is the best option for you and your loved one.

  • Caregivers are monitored – professional caregivers are monitored regularly. Caring Connection takes pride in hand picking our home care providers to match your specific needs. You will also be able to have regular discussions with professional caregivers who can alert you to possible problems or changes that only a professional may notice.
  • Professional caregivers are trained – unlike a friend, family member, or friend of a friend; professional caregivers are trained for their work. Special courses, certifications, and counseling regarding how to handle various types of clients and issues they may come across make them the best choice for the job.
  • Caregiving / Home Healthcare companies are safe – these companies base their business on the fact that the employees they hire are not only well trained but bonded and insured. If your caregiver can’t provide proof that they are covered for any possible problem, then perhaps they are not as “reliable” as you may think. Often those who work for the elderly “under the table” for less money can have ulterior motives behind doing so; motives that include access to drugs, money, and personal information.
  • You have a pool of resources – when you utilize a professional company to care for your loved one. This means if someone calls in sick with the flu it’s not you who is scrambling to find someone to care for your loved one. Professional caregiving companies have a multitude of employees who will be able to fill in if the scheduled person is sick or has an emergency.
  • Services are affordable – and professionals will be able to process Medicare paperwork because they are trained for the job. A professional company will handle all of the finances; including insurances, payroll, payroll taxes, etc. Hiring a non-professional could mean you are subject to submitting massive amounts of paperwork covering tax information, insurance and more. In home healthcare and caregiving services are generally covered by your Medicare Part B & will be explained to you fully by a professional staff member.

Whether you live close to your loved one or farther away, it’s not fair to them or you that you take on the role of caregiver 24/7 by yourself. Depending upon friends and family can become taxing and stressful. Making the decision to hire professionals for your caregiving needs will not only put your mind at ease, but allow you to have a constant contact with a trained individual who can assure you that your loved one is being cared for properly.


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